I've decided to re-baby Freddy. Yes, that is a strange word I came up with to describe my plan. The child is regressing a bit when it ...

Re-baby

I've decided to re-baby Freddy. Yes, that is a strange word I came up with to describe my plan. The child is regressing a bit when it comes to manners, behavior, whining, melt downs, and fits. This all started when I came home from work...to work. I think the change has gotten to him, and the lack of attention he sometimes gets from me. I have to change Addie's diaper whether I'm working or not, and when she's ready to nap, the whole world comes to a screeching halt, and I have to nurse her, so on and so forth. Freddy though, I can tell him to go potty, wash his hands, go rest for a minute, sit down and watch your show, go play in your room, put your clothes on, just a minute, I have to finish my work, maybe later, etc. He's never shown any jealousy towards Addie, as far as I've realized. I think I'm seeing it now, he's started to whine a lot, say he "can't do" everything, needs my help constantly, and has major melt downs often. It reached the height of embarrassment as he challenged me time and again at Andrea's house yesterday. He gave me dirty looks, "banged" her dog after telling poor Zoe he hated her, and told me he didn't care about cleaning up the room he destroyed. It was pretty horrible.

So, the plan is to "re-baby" him. I'm going to as sincerely as possible start going back to doing everything for him. I'm going to help him go potty, help him wash his hands, put his clothes on him, put him in his chair for meals and help him down, put his jacket and shoes on him, help him clean his room, and give him as few directives and responsibilities as possible for awhile. Here's my hopeful outcome. Freddy will feel more paid attention to, more nurtured, and eventually smothered and start seeking out independence again rather than negative attention. He'll have less opportunity to be oppositional and less cause to be frustrated. Jason says I may just stunt him, and I guess he could just get used to all that and be comfortable with it. If it goes a few weeks with no hint of my desired outcome, I can slowly give him back more responsibilities and go down a different path. Maybe we've grown him up a little too much, too fast. I have seen other three year olds that are much more "babyish" than our Fredster. I don't necessarily enjoy that, but I'd rather that he be sensitive and coddled than angry, frustrated, and mean. That's the Freddy I've been seeing lately, and it is scary! I also don't want this to grow into any acting out towards Addie, because she hearts him a lot! What do you folks think about this fool plan?

3 comments:

ainmemphis said...

I think you are a wonderful mother to Freddy and I am sure all 3 year olds go through this even if there is no younger sibling. I was VERY impressed with how patient you were with him and hope I can follow in your footsteps when I have a three year old. Looking forward to seeing you all again soon!

Kristina said...

It sounds perfectly logical to me. This coming from someone who doesn't yet have a three year old but I thought I would throw in my 2 cents anyways. Let me know how it works.

We're back in town, by the way. Rolled in around 5:00 tonight. Should try to do a play-date this week sometime.

Can said...

I think that after the year that Freddy has had, I'd be very surprised if he didn't regress a bit. I say go for it...I am personally thinking that the whole re-baby concept is similar to reverse psychology and he'll get tired of it quickly. Is that your plan? Cause you know he will get tired of being baby'd. You'll be great!! You're a pretty swell mama.